Are you struggling with an important decision that you just can't seem to make?
Do you feel like you're overdue for a change, but don't know where to start?
Or perhaps you're frustrated because you feel you're finally on the right path, but self-doubt and negative thoughts have taken over.
It’s common to experience these feelings at one time or another. Here are a few things that may help when you feel stuck:
Respect Your Uniqueness.
We often don't realize just how unique we are. Too often we compare ourselves to others and seek advice instead of looking within.
Remind yourself that we are as different on the inside as we are on the outside.
Slow Down Your Thinking
Our default mode is thinking fast and rushing to judgment, even when dealing with complex issues. Take some time to challenge and rethink your initial conclusions, and resist our natural tendency to simply confirm them.
Be Aware Of Thought Biases
Be aware that we all have internal biases that impact our thoughts, feelings and actions in different ways. Consider how past experiences, things you've seen and been told, may be influencing you in unhelpful ways.
When speaking we know our intent, but when listening we only feel the impact and may miss the intent. If a conversation creates negative thoughts and feelings, ask yourself if the impact may not be what was intended.
And here are some things to consider if you are having difficulty in the workplace:
Lack of Control Can Be Frustrating
Workplace challenges can be particularly difficult because we are not used to yielding control in other aspects of our life. Accepting this may be helpful when you feel overwhelmed in a given situation.
Workplace Relationships are Different
Workplace relationships are involuntary and therefore you're often dealing with people you have nothing in common with. When conflict arises, recognizing that it may be the nature of the relationship, not you or them, can be helpful.
Your Boss May Be Doing Their Best
Consider that your boss may have never had any leadership training and/or poor examples to follow. Thinking about this, rather than taking things personally, may help take some of the sting out of confrontations.
Take Care When Reading Written Communications
Because emails and texts lack the unspoken visual
communication we get in person, we often have to "fill in the blanks", and we often do it with a negative bias. Maybe the senders intentions were more positive or at least neutral?
Being more in touch with our thoughts and feelings can help us decide what we are really seeking, create an action plan, and move forward with confidence.
My name is Jeff Schreier
I’ve always enjoyed engaging with people, whether it be family, friends, colleagues or someone I just happened to meet. The idea of becoming a professional coach was the result of feelings that so many of us experience: the desire to do something different and fulfilling.
Coaching has taught me more than I imagined about why we think, feel and act the way we do. And sharing that knowledge when working with others has been as fulfilling as I had hoped.Please reach out if you would like to have a free introductory session to discuss working together.
L.L. Roanoke, VA
"Jeff helped me when I was struggling and frustrated with my career at a position I had held for over 15 years. We worked together to define clear goals. He held me accountable and had me complete specific tasks of writing a resume and defining a budget. Jeff’s probing questions challenged me to review my options and important short and long-term goals. These steps allowed me to navigate and assess my situation and ultimately develop greater satisfaction with my career and work life balance."
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